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Simple Calming Techniques for Children Facing School Anxiety

Starting a new school year is a big step, and it’s natural for children of any age to feel nervous or uncertain. 

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Kate Howard RSHom

Homeopath and CHE Community Manager

As parents and home prescribers, we can support our families with gentle tools to help our kids feel safe, confident, and calm. Here are some simple techniques you can use with your children, from little learners to older students:

Simple Calming Techniques for Younger Children

1. The Magic Breath

Teach children to take “magic breaths”. Slow, deep breaths that help calm their busy minds and bodies.

  • How to do it: Encourage your child to breathe in slowly through the nose while counting to 3, hold for 2 seconds, then breathe out gently through the mouth for 4 counts.
  • Why it helps: Deep breathing activates the body’s natural relaxation response and reduces the feeling of panic.

2. The Safe Place Visualisation

Guide your child to imagine a happy, safe place whenever they feel scared.

  • How to do it: Ask your child to close their eyes and picture their favourite place. Maybe a garden, a beach, or cuddled at home. Encourage them to describe what they see, hear, and feel there.
  • Why it helps: Visualisation shifts focus from fear to comfort, helping children feel emotionally secure.

3. The Comfort Object

A small, familiar object (like a soft toy or a special stone) can be a powerful comfort.

  • How to do it: Suggest your child brings a small, comforting item to school in their pocket or bag.
  • Why it helps: Touching or holding this object can ground the child and remind them of home and safety.

4. The Quiet Spot

Encourage your child to find a quiet corner or a calm spot during school breaks.

  • How to do it: Help your child identify a space where they can take a break and breathe if they feel overwhelmed.
  • Why it helps: A moment of calm away from the noise and crowd can help reset their emotions.

5. Simple Affirmations

Positive words can boost confidence and reduce anxiety.

  • How to do it: Teach your child to say simple affirmations like “I am safe,” “I am brave,” or “I can do this” when feeling scared.
  • Why it helps: Affirmations help children build inner strength and resilience.

Simple Calming Techniques for Older Children

As children grow, their understanding of emotions and coping skills develops, so we can offer slightly more advanced tools that build on their growing awareness and independence.

Progressive Muscle Relaxation

Help older children learn to notice and release tension in their bodies.

  • How to do it: Guide them to tense a group of muscles (like fists or shoulders) for 5 seconds, then slowly release. Move through different muscle groups from head to toe.
  • Why it helps: This technique teaches body awareness and promotes physical relaxation, reducing anxiety.

Mindful Observation

Encourage children to ground themselves in the present moment through their senses.

  • How to do it: Ask them to notice and name 5 things they can see, 4 things they can hear, 3 things they can touch, 2 things they can smell, and 1 thing they can taste.
  • Why it helps: Mindful observation shifts attention away from worries and anchors them in the here and now.

Journaling or Drawing Feelings

Older children can benefit from expressing emotions through writing or art.

  • How to do it: Suggest they keep a small notebook or sketchpad to write or draw about their feelings or experiences at school.
  • Why it helps: This externalisation of feelings helps process emotions and provides a safe outlet for anxiety.

Creating a Coping Toolbox

Help your child build a personalised set of calming strategies and reminders.

  • How to do it: Together, compile a list or box of items and activities that soothe them. This might include favourite music, a stress ball, calming apps, or quick breathing exercises.
  • Why it helps: Having ready-to-use tools empowers children to manage anxiety independently.

Setting Small, Achievable Goals

Help your child build a personalised set of calming strategies and reminders.

  • How to do it: Work with your child to identify one small goal (like asking a question in class or joining a group activity) and celebrate each success.
  • Why it helps: Achieving small goals builds confidence and reduces feelings of helplessness.

A Final Note

Starting school is a transition that touches the whole family, and with the right tools, it can become a moment of growth rather than fear.

As a home prescriber, you have a unique role in empowering families; offering both practical, everyday strategies and the gentle support of homeopathy. By combining emotional tools with carefully chosen remedies, you can help children of all ages feel safe, resilient, and ready to thrive in their new environment.

A calm start to school isn’t just about the first day, it’s a gift of confidence they carry with them all year long.

Disclaimer

The content shared here is intended for informational purposes only and should not be considered a replacement for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a qualified and licensed healthcare provider. The views and opinions expressed in this presentation are those of the presenter and do not necessarily represent those of CHE or any affiliated organisations.

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